Get Rid Of Emotional Parasites
If some people rely on you too much, carry them from now on in your heart and no longer on your shoulders. Don’t let their problems burden your life and don’t let them turn into a backpack you have to carry.
People are much more than that. That is, they are a part of your life, but at the same time they are the ‘everything’ of their own life. Therefore , everyone should bear their own weight and not lean on other people.
If we do this, if we make ourselves responsible for our own existence, we will be able to solve our problems, understand our emotions and handle our conflicts without depending on anyone else.
Emotional Parasites
Emotional parasites are people who feed on our feelings, emotions and thoughts. They are not necessarily bad people. They are simply people who are completely immersed in their own complexes and never seem to be able to do anything themselves.
You could say that there are two kinds of emotional parasites. Let’s get into this.
Dependent parasites
Some cling to us and make it their life mission to confide in us about their sorrows and bad moments so that we can comfort them. These people need us to be able to express their dissatisfaction with the world. And when they feel good, we probably don’t hear from them.
When the person feels satisfied, he forgets who is helping him when he feels bad. However, when he feels the need to confirm his emotional state again, he will come back to you. Not only does this behavior usually make us feel hurt and used, but it is also contagious. It spreads negativity and destroys us.
Their nagging, disappointment and pessimism is so constant that they often need advice to free them from their worries. Their position is so obscure that they make us doubt our own perspective.
Aggressive parasites
The second kind of emotional parasites are the parasites that behave aggressively, taking advantage of their attractiveness, leadership, or persuasive qualities based on promises you cannot refuse.
These are people who gradually deceive us and invade our lives. They demand more and more affection from the other person, without thinking about what the emotional consequences of this might be for their victim.
In relationships, they only consider their own needs and, although they don’t do it consciously, they tend to always and above all put their own whims and interests first. Likewise, they crush any request from the person they are abusing.
They demand more and more love and attention, which makes the situation more and more difficult to endure. This causes a feeling of powerlessness and worthlessness, which develops insecurity and low self-esteem in the other person.
Get rid of the parasites, go your own way
Do you feel like you carry the weight of certain people on your shoulders? Then analyze and reflect on the emotional balances these relationships create in you.
Remember that the emotional parasite spreads its emotional state and transfers it to you. So you may feel psychologically exhausted and weakened.
Most importantly, you are restoring all your own personal needs that were left discarded while taking care of your parasite. Once you’ve fixed them, make them a priority. Just because you do this doesn’t mean you stop loving that person. You simply protect yourself from certain aspects in order to maintain your emotional balance.
Don’t feel incompetent or guilty for not being able to meet the other person’s needs. Everyone is responsible for their own life and the rest of us are only a part of it, not the whole. Remember that everyone must bear their own weight and do not assume the role of the savior. We are only responsible for our own happiness.
