How Are You Kind To Yourself
It is often said that we are bad at judging ourselves and that we often treat others better than ourselves. Most of us demand too much of ourselves, don’t forgive ourselves for our mistakes, and find it hard to find ourselves.
Therefore, it is imperative that we learn to love, respect and accept ourselves, just as we do with those around us. By starting with ourselves, it becomes easier to extend this kindness and compassion to others.
Many people believe that they need to be hard on themselves so that they don’t just sit there and do nothing. They feel they need deadlines to keep moving forward. That may be true and it’s not bad to push yourself. The problem is that we often focus on what we’re not doing right or what we can improve on and that becomes an obsession. We can experiment with being less strict and allowing ourselves to make mistakes every now and then (which is also a good learning experience).
We appear to others as strong, determined, and courageous, like a superhero or Wonder Woman, yet we hide our fears, doubts, and unhappiness. However, this mask or shield that we use does not help us. In fact, when the time comes when we are alone, we turn into unjust, hard people who don’t even forgive themselves for the smallest mistakes.
How do you start being nice
Saying you love yourself is not the same as narcissism, but it just shows that you love yourself and accept yourself as you are. And while this may seem terribly difficult, it shouldn’t be. Here are a few tips that can help you:
It’s okay to make mistakes
No one is perfect and no one is born with all knowledge. Just as happens with others, you too make mistakes because you are human. Don’t get hung up on it, don’t make a mosquito an elephant and look at things in perspective.
If there’s something you don’t like about the way you behave or speak, pay more attention next time, analyze the situation, and develop a plan to make things right. What if the same mistake happens to a friend or family member? Convince them that the world will not end because you made a mistake or admitted it.
Don’t ignore pain
Do not deny the painful feeling of sadness, fear, suffering, despair and depression. Hiding things from others works in certain cases, but there will come a time when you have to face your feelings and emotions.
We are able to comfort our best friend when he or she is feeling bad, or our partner when he or she is having a bad day, but not by saying “I’m sad today” or “I’m depressed” because we feel that way. want to suppress. This just makes everything worse.
Treat yourself the same way you would treat someone you love
Imagine you are in the kitchen with your young child, who wants to help set the table. He grabs a glass, but it falls to the floor and breaks into pieces. What would you say? You might scold him, but if he cut himself or started crying, you would comfort him, you would say it was just an accident, it could happen to anyone and so on.
But what if it wasn’t your son who dropped the glass, it was you? Your first reaction would probably be that you are worthless and that you can never do anything right.
Compare both situations and imagine how your child would feel if you said the same thing to him as you say to yourself and how you would feel if you were more understanding, just like you did with the child.
Having a bad day doesn’t mean you will always be unlucky
We all go through moments that we would most like to forget, that hurt us, that make us feel unwell at all and it feels like we are walking around with a black cloud over our heads.
But despite the bad, the bad luck or the undesirable things, we manage to win the battle against bad luck. There are always positive moments, even in the worst of times. Give yourself a few minutes each day to think about the things you are grateful for. You will see that there are several things that are all good!
Don’t be your own worst enemy, become your best friend.
