How To Deal With An Anxious Person
Anxiety is a challenging problem not only for those who are anxious, but also for those around them. This situation can undoubtedly be quite exhausting. It requires a lot of energy and not everyone is willing to spend their life with someone so demanding, someone who provokes anger and is easily frustrated and who reacts negatively when things don’t go according to plan. An anxious person can reach a point where he always blames others for everything that happens to him.
Anxious people are often very impulsive; they don’t think before they speak, don’t plan ahead, and have difficulty with intimate relationships (such as love affairs, friendships, or family ties).
If you have to spend your life with someone whose fear has transcended normal limits, don’t make the mistake of turning your back on this person and leaving him alone with his problem. A person who suffers from anxiety has to deal with a certain imbalance for some reason and the way he reacts to things is largely not rational. By putting yourself in his place, you can help him a long way.
How to make life easier with an anxious person
The key, as in virtually all relationships, is to develop a sense of understanding. The tips in this article can help you share your life with an anxious person:
Try to remember the person behind the fear
It is certainly true that your partner, your friend, or your son/daughter has a wide range of positive character traits that can cancel out the negativity of their fear.
We can all suffer from moments when we are anxious or tense and after a while we are completely calm and loving again. It is therefore important to look beyond the reason why this person is afraid and instead value their positive qualities.
When we are anxious, our brains are unable to relax or disconnect. We are constantly aware of everything that is happening around us and we cannot sit still. This emotional state of mind is overwhelming; if we add to this the feeling we feel when we live in a violent environment, the situation only gets more complicated. Why not plan a weekend away with your partner to relax in the countryside or on the beach?
Try to help him/her feel understood
Saying to a fearful person “I understand that you are afraid” is not enough. When this person is anxious, it’s best to help them see the situation rationally. Together you can come to the best conclusions and solve the problems.
Telling this person to calm down at times when the situation and his nerves and anxiety are overwhelming for him will not make the situation any better. Don’t bother him by telling him to “just stop thinking about it” , to “relax” or “take a nap .” The more often you say things like this, the worse he’ll feel.
Try talking about it. Nothing is more liberating for people than to talk about what they are going through. Perhaps talking about the problem will make their anxiety subside and disappear. If he asks if he can talk to you, don’t deny him that privilege. Maybe you are the oasis he longs for in the middle of the desert. Remember that active listening can be very helpful in these situations.
Be excited about the little things
If you appreciate the effort someone makes to reduce their anxiety and even though the results of this effort are small (yet present), praise them for this! Tell him he’s doing well. Make him feel supported and recognized for his dedication.
Be patient, especially when progress is gradual and slow. Remember that any change for the better is completely welcome, no matter how small the change.
